Socializing can be good
Socializing makes everybody feel good. Sometimes it’s worth it to push ourselves. We’re all social animals; on some level, love really is all you need. Being socially able is a very easy thing to do, and it shouldn’t be something you’re either good at or not. You can learn to become a more social person – if you want to.
Socializing is the foundation on which human societies are based. The strength of this stone decides not just your happiness, but also your existence. Socializing makes that big difference between mere existence and living. That sounds very easy, isn’t it? But we all know that not everybody is good at it.
If socializing would have been such a breeze, many would have been spared the unpleasant tags of loners and recluses. Does that mean you, who are bad at socializing, will forever remain bad at it? Certainly not, well, not unless you decide for yourself that things will never change. If you have decided that you have had enough of finding yourself the odd one out everywhere you go, then there are a few things that you should do with immediate effect.
Let’s have a look on some tips of socializing:
Initiate conversation – A lot of people wait for other people to talk to them. Becoming the person that initiates conversation and breaks the ice is, as they say, half the battle. When you feel more comfortable doing this, you’ll find yourself meeting more and more interesting people and gaining fruitful friendships.
Smile – If you look like you’re unhappy you’ll be less approachable. This is an easy step to appearing open and social. When you initiate conversation, your smile should be mirrored and rapport will be build from there.
Enjoy your company – When you look like you’re having fun you are instantly more likable. People want to know fun people, someone who enjoys company. While out with friends, have a good time. It may seem obvious, but many groups of people head out and do nothing but scan the room. If you’re enjoying yourself, people will notice and want in on the action.
Acknowledge random – This can be as simple as a smile and a nod. When you make eye contact with a stranger, acknowledge it. If your smile is reciprocated, this will be an easy introduction. Later, initiate the conversation.
Listen – People enjoy talking about themselves. The worst, however, is when someone only waits for you to stop talking so they can begin again. Take a genuine interest in people. People are very interesting, so actively engage in a conversation. There is a lot to talk about in this world; small talk isn’t all that is necessary – particularly because it can be painfully boring.
Conversely, don’t rant – The best way to get good responses out of people is to ask good questions. Avoid ‘what do you do’ and ‘nice weather’ etc. Talk about something that interests you. People love explaining things they know, so when you don’t know what someone is talking about, ask them. Don’t pretend, like you know, they will be more than happy to teach you.
Keep eye contact – Don’t scan the room while talking to someone. It is a clear indication you’re not interested in the conversation. If you really have no interest in what someone is saying, change the topic. Or excuse yourself. There are a million reasons to end the encounter; not every conversation has to be meaningful. Being able to look someone in the eyes is directly related to some recognizing honesty.
You can learn to become a more social person – if you want to.
( International Trainer, Motivator & Coach
Edexcel Level – 4 Btec Professional Award ( UK)
ITOL Diploma in Coaching Excellence (UK) )