“Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results.” –Willie Nelson
Humans are evolutionarily wired with a negativity bias. Our minds naturally focus on the bad and discard the good. It was much more important for our ancestors to avoid threats than to collect rewards. An individual who successfully avoided a threat would wake up the next morning and have another opportunity to collect a reward, but an individual who didn’t avoid the threat would have no such opportunity. Negative thoughts are caused by ingrained patterns related to our own beliefs: about self-esteem, security, money, people, life, and everything else.
For instance, you may have thought at some point that life is difficult. Then, whenever you felt that life was being difficult, your thought was reinforced and grew on to being a belief. The primary reason to let go of negative thoughts is that they prevent you from enjoying all the benefits of positive thinking.
Once this is clear to your brain, it is more motivated and energized to help you take steps to stop thinking negatively. And this is how you start eliminating negative thinking on autopilot.
These are some of the most common effects of negative thinking:
Feeling down: The extent of negative feelings can go from anger, frustration, irritability, to even anxiety and depression, passing through many other feelings, none of them pleasant.
Physical effects: The body lowers its defenses, as negativity subtracts from our energy, because of the emotional negative state we’re in, it’s also easier to see oneself less attractive and not care for our physical needs.Besides, an extreme negative emotional state can cause eating disorders: from over eating to a complete lack of appetite and not eating enough (and not caring about it).
Closing oneself down to possibilities and the flow of abundance: When we are in a negative state we do not attract those elements that would make our lives advanced. Rather we attract the circumstances that support us in thinking something is wrong, and we get stuck. Simply put, when we stay thinking negative, we attract negative emotions and events. Thus when one is in a negative state everything seems to go wrong.
A negative effect on others: Have you ever wondered how you may be affecting other people because of the way you feel? Think about when a relative, a friend or someone at work seems to be having a bad day and how you feel when you spend time with them. You could be making others feel the same way when you are wrapped in your own negative thoughts.
It’s a waste of time: Look at all the effects of negative thinking explained above. Can you tell me one single benefit of thinking negatively and being in a negative mood?
It may take consistent effort to control negative thoughts. Be aware of your thinking patterns and make a conscious effort to replace negative thoughts with positive ones.
Stay away from negative people, who can affect your own outlook on life.
While it’s good to be aware of what is going on in the world, don’t constantly watch TV programs or read news items that make life seem impossibly hopeless. Focus on doing something useful and relaxing such as planting a garden, exercising or playing with kids.
Learn to delegate and/or manage time better:
Get enough sleep, drink plenty of pure water and eat a junk food free diet. Also important is to take the time to enjoy and appreciate the food you are eating. Gulping down food on the run is a sure way to contribute to overall poor health.
Control angry outbursts by walking away when a situation reaches boiling point. Force yourself to breathe deeply and calm down. Any other than the realization that it’s much better to think positively, negative thinking doesn’t contribute to our lives; rather it detracts.
( International Trainer, Motivator & Coach
Edexcel Level – 4 Btec Professional Award ( UK)
ITOL Diploma in Coaching Excellence (UK) )