How to say no
Learn to say NO? How hard can that be? NO…easy. But no, it isn’t. For so many people, it is very hard to say no, whether it is to others for help or a favor, or to themselves. This article is with hopes to help you with your ability to say no.
If you can’t say “yes” with 100% happy commitment then “No” is the better answer and should be respected by both parties. This will make the outcome the happiest. Always answer things with a “yes” or a “no”. Never “maybe” so as to not give false hope, as that will cause more “excuses turned grudgingly yes “. It sure is hard for some people to say no, even when they really, really want to. So how do some people breezily refuse an invitation while others begrudgingly accept? How do they pull it off? Like this!
- They don’t make excuses
Here’s the deal: even though it doesn’t feel like it, saying no is your right. If you choose that path, you don’t need to explain yourself. That’s not to say you need to be rude. There are plenty of ways to phrase your refusal to soften the blow, but after you’ve
given your answer, any extra information only draws out the conversation and makes you more likely to cave. Change the subject and move on with your life.
- They offer alternatives
A great way to mitigate the sting of a no is to offer something else instead that you are able to accommodate. If you decide you can’t host your friends who are visiting your city, you can probably happily find time to see them during their stay. Something like, “I’m sorry, we won’t be able to host you this time, but we’d love to invite you over for dinner on Tuesday” works wonders.
- They don’t let themselves be bullied
When someone is giving you the hard sell, they will often resort to tricky language that makes it even harder to refuse. Recognize this type of language? “Most people buy the Gold level; which level would you like to buy?” Establishing a base level makes you feel pressured to buy the same. Don’t fall for it!
In order to reach your goals you have to build some fences to guard and protect yourself so you can grow. This means discriminating between the things that help you get there and the things that don’t. Learn to say no to the people, situations, and commitments that do not move you toward your goal, that distract you, or that you simply do not enjoy. Be purposeful in your actions—learn to say no! It’s a powerful little word with a huge impact.
( International Trainer, Motivator & Coach
Edexcel Level – 4 Btec Professional Award ( UK)
ITOL Diploma in Coaching Excellence (UK) )