FEAR OF FAILURE
“What would life be if we had no courage to attempt anything?”
Have you ever given a thought to the above quote? We all have fears in life but because of this fear can we stop our self to attempt something? Do we just give up before even trying? Yes, we all have such fears at a point of time. We all go psychic thinking about the failure even before attempting something. Many of us are afraid of failing, at least some of the time. But fear of failure is when we allow that fear to stop us doing the things that can move us forward to achieve our goals. Fear of failure can be linked to many causes.
The fear of failing can be immobilizing – it can cause us to do nothing, and therefore resist moving forward. But when we allow fear to stop our forward progress in life, we’re likely to miss some great opportunities along the way. It’s human nature. When we go outside of our comfort zone, we feel scared. As human beings our ego and identity become so wrapped up in what we are doing, that when things do not go as we expect, we can literally feel like we are going to die.
Overcoming fear of failure is not easy by any means, but it can be done, especially if you are determined to take your personal growth to the next level. There is no magic pill that will transform you into a fearless hero, only steps that will take you closer to freedom from the imaginary jail cell.
Let me discuss with you all some steps that I took to overcome Fear of Failure:
1. IDENTIFY THE ROOT CAUSE
Where does our fear of failure originate?
Identifying the root cause is the first step to acknowledging our fear and overcoming it. Coming face to face with our anxiety is the best way to get over our trepidation.
2. KEEP YOUR EYES ON THE GOAL
Once we have identified the cause of fear, we should try to focus on our goals. Every time a thought like “I can’t do this because …” comes up, I try to recalibrate myself, and focus on the small tasks that move me toward my overall goal. To conquer fear of failure, we must set our mind completely on the outcome that we want to create. The more we can focus on our end game, the more we obliterate pessimism from our mind.
3. ACKNOWLEDGE AVOIDANCE AND FOCUS ON MOVING FORWARD
Once we shift our mindset from being the victim to being the bold, one who wants to achieve their destiny, we have to take action. When we are scared, often we fill our days with busy work to avoid real issues. This avoidance through being busy justifies our lack of progress. To move forward, we must stop spending our valuable time on mundane activities.
4. NEVER SAY NEVER
We dream to give ourselves hope. To stop dreaming—well, that’s like saying you can never change your fate. We need to ask ourselves “How badly do I need to complete this . . . ?” At the end of the day, we are our best motivators. Failure is a part of life; it is failure that makes us stronger and more persistent to achieve our goal.
5. TRUST YOUR INNER GUIDE
Always trust yourself and your own feeling, as opposed to argumentations, discussions, or introductions of that sort; if it turns out that you are wrong, then the natural growth of your inner life will eventually guide you to other insights. Allow your judgments their own silent, undisturbed development, which, like all progress, must come from deep within and cannot be forced or hastened. Many of the failures come from not trusting yourself.
6. PATIENCE AND FAITH ARE OUR BEST FRIENDS
No one can determine the final destination of our life’s journey. Therefore, the next best thing to do is to keep ourselves cool and have faith in ourselves. This faith allows us to explore unchartered territory with confidence. We are at ease to fail forward. Because even when we fail, we do not lose it all—we can learn valuable lessons, and build the foundation for our next chapter.
Keeping a can-do attitude helps us to never give up on ourselves. It allows us to recharge, reinvest, and reinvent ourselves by melting down our fear.
( International Trainer, Motivator & Coach
Edexcel Level – 4 Btec Professional Award ( UK)
ITOL Diploma in Coaching Excellence (UK) )