“You don’t choose your family. They are God’s gift to you, as you are to them.” —Desmond Tutu
Family is where we all belong to and from where our identity comes from. A person is valued based on his family and upbringing.
We all belong to a family and it is our family that keeps us together through thick and thin. Without having a family, no person is complete and the completeness comes with good family bonding.
By just saying that you live with your family does not hold any
values to being a part of the family. Four or five persons living under a roof does not become a family. Family is a bond, a long lasting relationship that holds a bond with each other. It all forms when man and woman become one and from there a family is born. There are many values that one has to learn to get the family bonding in the right manner. Bonding does not happen overnight. It forms with every second, every minute that you spend with your loved ones… Family values are the beliefs; way of life transmitted by a family environment into the individual and this impartation guides the individual every time in his actions via the world outside the family. Within the family, the interactions are guided by these values only and this practice of following the values extends outside the family as well.
When raising a child, one is taught values by their families that they feel are important for their child to have. I believe that family values consist of certain actions and qualities that are important to a family to uphold. Values that are important in my family are honesty, trust and to have respect for others. To many people, the definition of the word family is a unity among a group of people who care and tend to each other’s needs, while forming an unbreakable bond. Therefore, family values are important and should be cherished and nurtured. Love, support, friendship, and guidance are key qualities necessary to form a family bond. Family is considered to be an elite and exclusive society in which most people in today’s world do not belong to or do not have the privilege of being a part of. The love within a family teaches a child about solidarity, which brings the teachings of virtue, sensitivity and assertiveness.
Everyone has the need to feel loved, but the best love there can be is the love of a family. Children, who grow without a family, are more likely to be unhappy simply because of the lack of love that they can’t receive anywhere else. The influence of family life should never be underestimated.
But nowadays there has been a trend over recent decades for families to become less close than they were in the past and this situation is largely accepted in society.
One of the first reasons for a decline in the closeness of families is connected to the busy lifestyles that we now lead. Most people have to work longer hours and often both parents work, so they simply do not have as much time to spend with each other as they did in the past. Another factor is the materialistic and consumer driven culture we now live in, which has led to less value being placed on family relationships.
Modern technology also means that people are more interested in their online life than interacting with their family in their free time. It could be argued that this has benefits. If people are not so close with their family, they are free to pursue their own dreams and aspirations, and to focus on improving their own lifestyle. However, I believe that there are far more negative outcomes. The most important factors leading to a fulfilled and happy life are emotional security and comfort. Without these we are in danger of feeling lost.
It is a difficult world we live in and we need the support of people close to us to cope with modern life. We are seeing a rise in mental health problems in many countries and this may well be a factor in this.
Busy modern lifestyles, changing cultural values and modern technology are causing families to become less close and are constantly depleting the importance of family values. We should try to halt this trend as it has more negative than positive outcome.
( International Trainer, Motivator & Coach
Edexcel Level – 4 Btec Professional Award ( UK)
ITOL Diploma in Coaching Excellence (UK) )