CRITICISM – SOCIAL ENEMY
Criticism is the practice of judging the merits and faults of something. Criticism is never fun, whether it’s coming from a well-meaning English teacher or from your arched enemy. If the criticism is meant to be constructive, then you can use it to become a better-rounded person. And if it’s only meant to harm you, then you can work on shaking it off like a bad habit.
Criticism means to show the fault and defect of something, to reveal the beauties in a word by eliminating the mistakes in it. A person who criticizes is called a critic. The word criticism is defined as to study or examine a person, a work of literature or art, an issue in order to find the mistakes in them and to show them.
Let me tell you a short story to understand criticism deeply:
Once upon a time there was a painter who had just completed his course and painted beautiful scenery. He wanted people’s opinion about his caliber and painting skills. He put his creation at a busy street-crossing. And just down below a board which read -“I have painted this piece. Since I’m new to this profession I might have committed some mistakes in my strokes etc. Please put a cross wherever you see a mistake.”While he came back in the evening to collect his painting he was completely shattered to see that whole canvass was filled with Xs (crosses) and some people had even written their comments on the painting. Disheartened and broken completely he ran to his master’s place and burst into tears. This young artist was breathing heavily and master heard him saying “I’m useless and if this is what I have learnt to paint I’m not worth becoming a painter. People have rejected me completely. I feel like dying “.Master smiled and suggested “My Son, I will prove that you are a great artist and have learnt flawless painting. Do as I say without questioning it. It will work.”Young artist reluctantly agreed and two days later early morning he presented a replica of his earlier painting to his master.
Master took that gracefully and smiled.”Come with me.” master said. They reached the same street-square early morning and displayed the same painting exactly at the same place. Now master took out another board which read -“Gentlemen, I have painted this piece. Since I’m new to this profession I might have committed some mistakes in my strokes etc. I have put a box with colors and brushes just below. Please do a favor. If you see a mistake, kindly pick up the brush and correct it.” Master and disciple walked back home. They both visited the place same evening. Young painter was surprised to see that actually there was not a single correction done so far. Next day again they visited and found painting remained untouched. They say the painting was kept there for a month for no correction came in!
Moral of the story: –
It is easier to criticize, but DIFFICULT TO IMPROVE. So don’t get carried away or judge yourself by someone else’s criticism and feel depressed.
If you’re learning a new skill and you’re being given some feedback you don’t like, the first step is to accept that you cannot learn anything new without making mistakes.
Let me share with you all, some steps on how to overcome criticism:
1. What Can I Learn from Criticism?
Most criticism is probably based, at least in part, on some truths. Criticism may appear negative. But, through criticism we have the opportunity to learn and improve from their suggestions.
2. Value others opinion or criticism:
The problem is that quite often, we only value praise. When people speak kind words we feel happy. When people criticize we feel miserable. However, if we only received insincere praise and false flattery, how would we ever make progress? If we wish to improve and develop we should invite constructive criticism and appreciate their suggestions.
3. Ignore False Criticism:
Sometimes we are criticized with no justification. This is a painful experience. But, potentially we can deal with it more easily than criticism which is justified. One option is to remain aloof and ignore it completely. If we feel the necessity of fighting it – in a way, we give it more importance than it deserves. By remaining silent we maintain a dignity that others will come to respect.
Smiling, even a false smile, can help us to relax more. It creates a more positive vibration and smoothes the situation. Smiling will motivate the other person to moderate their approach.
It is in your hand how you are taking your criticism .The more emotional we are, the more limited our thinking becomes, and the more questionable our reactions are.
( International Trainer, Motivator & Coach
Edexcel Level – 4 Btec Professional Award ( UK)
ITOL Diploma in Coaching Excellence (UK) )