ART OF ASKING
Hello dear readers,
The art and science of asking questions is the source of all knowledge.
We often have a tendency to know things … Human beings are called curious creatures because they have an urge to know things; they want to know things because of their curious nature and hence we often ask questions. But it happens many a times that we hesitate to ask questions, it is because we lack the art of asking questions … Yes, my dear friends asking questions is an art … Because what to ask, where to ask and how to ask, we are unaware of these things … And hence we need to learn the art of asking …
The art of asking question is the key for effective communication … This art can be termed as a crucial mastery of every effective communicator. Simply, to communicate better and to ensure understanding no matter whether you are speaking or listening you should master asking questions. This means that you have to know when and how to ask the right questions.
Now let’s be honest. How many times have we really given it a thought? How many times have we thought of the importance of questions and how many times have we tried to learn and practice asking questions? It is something that most of us don’t really think about. And the usual opinion is “of course I know how to ask questions” and “what’s there to know about it”.
How to learn the art of asking questions? How to ask, What to ask, When to ask or When not to ask. I will help you with this.
Here are some tips which can be used while asking questions:
Interrupting is rude and shows lack of respect and patience to hear out the speaker. It says “I do not have the time to listen to you just tell me what I want to know” or “I know what needs to be done, just give me the information I need”. So no matter how bad you want to ask a question let the speaker finish what he is saying.
Don’t Ask Just for the Purpose of Asking
Asking questions shows that you are involved, but don’t ask questions just to show that you are listening. The questions you ask should be for more information, better understanding and clarification. No one wants to be disrupted by useless and stupid questions.
Use the Silence
Also don’t ask questions just to break the silence. Learn to be comfortable with the periods of silence. Although it might feel uncomfortable silent periods can be very powerful at letting the speaker reflect at what he is saying. Sometimes after a period of silence, the speaker can completely change his opinion on certain aspects.
Ask With Confidence
Don’t sound as if you are scared to ask or as if you already regret that you are asking. Ask any question with confidence so that you receive a respectful answer with the information that you need. Asking with confidence also shows that you were actively listening and that you are involved in the conversation. When you master the Art of Asking Questions, it will help you resolve many of your issues which will bring you closer to success …
( International Trainer, Motivator & Coach
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